So Is Lingerie Porn In 2017 ? ( You’re Kidding Right ?).

So Is Lingerie Porn In 2017 ? ( You’re Kidding Right ?).

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So Is Lingerie Porn In 2017 ? ( You’re Kidding Right ?).

 

I have to be totally honest, coming back into lingerie after some time out has shocked, saddened and in some cases damn right disgusted me! I love lingerie, I always have and the reason for me stepping out was to do with my health and for no other reason, I don’t know what I expected when I came back, but it wasn’t this.

This is probably a good time to point out that I am not talking about lingerie itself, or about lingerie models, the fact that lingerie designers are working hard for lingerie to sit along side the rest of the fashion world and beautiful girls are happy to be photographed in lingerie, without worry of being judged, is a major leap forward and something to be celebrated.

I am talking about the stigma and the constant link of lingerie to sex.  In 2 weeks, I have had to block and ban well over one hundred people from my social media, and have a daily battle of reading through every single comment that has been left just to check that it is appropriate for ‘a lingerie site’.

Not that long ago, it was ‘Social Media’ & ‘The Internet’ itself that the battle was with, as they tried to find a way in which they could distinguish girls in lingerie ‘lingerie models’ from girls in lingerie ‘porn stars’, which in my eyes was absurd, surely the difference was obvious and it wasn’t right that they just labelled it all as pornographic but now the battle isn’t with them; suprisingly it’s with you.

I am certainly not pointing the finger and saying that everyone sees lingerie as pornographic, but on varying levels most do relate it to sex.  In no means am I making sex the enemy; I strongly believe that if lingerie spices things up in the bedroom then good on you, but the question that must be asked is while we see lingerie as sexual, what effect does that have on women and their bodies.

A great example here is how the sales figures for ‘Beautiful Lingerie’ go through the roof at Christmas and Valentines.  This itself, shows that even if we don’t realise it, we do link lingerie with sex and that in itself isn’t a problem as long as we can link it to other things as well.

Agent Provocateur and Victoria Secrets have done amazing things for the world of lingerie, showing it as fun, and that it’s acceptable to wear beautiful lingerie at any time, but in my eyes, they have also made the lifestyle of beautiful lingerie elite, making it feel out of reach of the average person, so everyone else is left with the only acceptable talk of correct sizes and why big boobs need padding.

As the founder of Baby Jane it is important for me to not only sell beautiful lingerie at a price everyone can afford, but more importantly to find a way of bridging the huge gap between seeing lingerie as a commodity and seeing it as purely sexual.

We need to start talking about the history, the fashion and how lingerie can make us feel, without taking on the shame and judgement put on us when it is linked to sex.

‘Lingerie IS NOT Porn’  It’s 2017 and women should be able to talk about, and share photos of their bodies in an artistic, editorial or health related way without being branded, a slut, a slag or a prostitute.  I am very aware that there will be argument that the reason that it isn’t acceptable is because it is worn over a women’s breasts and genitals, but what is it that makes this unacceptable for a woman, but acceptable for man, and what is the difference between lingerie and swimwear.  It drives me mad, because I do not understand it.

Why are we allowing society to dictate and shame our bodies like this? We must start to realise that we have a choice and wearing beautiful lingerie every single day, does not have to have anything to do with sex. You don’t have to be in a relationship, it doesn’t even have to been seen, it can just be a way of expressing your mood, your personality, your style, like any other item of clothing.

We can continue to allow society to shame us for wearing it, or we can look at the way we think of it and change.  We can keep relating it solely to sex and buying it only at certain times of the year, or we make a stand and start buying it for fashion, how we look, what we like and how it makes us feel, we can start making lingerie about us.

I’m not delusional, I know the rude comments, the sexist actions and the hateful remarks won’t stop, but we can stop listening to them and be confident enough in ourselves to brush them off and bring lingerie out in to our lives instead of keeping it hidden behind closed doors. Whether you decide to take lingerie into your life or to stay on the side of ‘perceived decency’ just make sure it is YOUR choice and let’s stop shaming the people who choose to wear it.

 

Written By Jayne Burrow  09/07/2017

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